Today's OPP issue is not about whether you stay with the cheater or kick them to the curb. This issue this listener has focuses on the "other woman." Will doing this get our listener the answers they are searching for? Will this bring closure? OPP January 7, 2014

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I recently discovered my husband of 4 years has been having an affair with a woman he met at the gym. He ended that relationship and wants to work on our marriage.
I had always thought if something like this ever happened to me I would kick him out and take him to the cleaners. It's really a lot easier said than done and no one can really know what they would do until they are in this position. Believe me I'm a strong independent woman with a high sense of worth and could do better finding someone that wouldn't do something like this to me.
But like I said it’s easier said than done. I want to fight for my marriage and would like my 9 month old son to grow up with his father. Having said that I need to know everything to move past it otherwise I won’t be able to forgive. He's been honest with me but holds back for fear of hurting me more so I feel like I'm not getting the whole story.
So here is my reason for the OPP, about a week ago she left a message that she wants to see him one last time. This infuriated me, she knows it’s over and how dare she want to say goodbye one last time for her to heal and move on. I would like to confront this other women to get some of my questions answered, to get a sense of control and closure from this awful situation and to tell her to stay away.
I've been debating if it's a good idea and what I would gain from it. I would like to hear what other women or men have done in this situation and if it would really help me get over this betrayal?
Thanks for any advice you can give me through this awful time.

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