Would You Date a Surrogate?
I've considered becoming a surrogate, but my boyfriend has major issues with it. Would you ever date a surrogate?
Aside from the heartburn, I loved being pregnant. I suppose the memories of morning sickness have faded but I really enjoyed watching my body take care of and grow a person! I thought it was fascinating.
My sister has been trying to get pregnant for over 5 years. She already has 3 boys, but wanted to have four kids. For reasons unknown, she's been unable to conceive this fourth time around.
One day I told her that I would love to be a surrogate for her if she ever decided to go down that road. I was being completely serious. She's since decided that their family is complete and she's just going to let nature take its course, but I've always thought it would be really cool to be the vessel so that another couple could have the baby they have always wanted.
I've discussed this with my boyfriend and he has major issues with it. He says he almost feels like I would be cheating on him. I don't see it as sexual at all, so I don't understand the issue.
He says if anyone is going to have a baby with me, he would want it to be him, but I'm almost 40 and he's nine years older than me, so that's not happening. I don't want to raise another child, but I wouldn't mind experiencing being pregnant again.
I know there is a very emotional side of being pregnant, and of course there is always the concern that you would become attached to the baby you are carrying as a surrogate. I feel like if I had the right mindset going into it then I would be okay, but I guess it's hard to say unless you've been through it.
Bottom line, would you ever date a surrogate? Do you think my boyfriend has a right to be jealous if I was to have someone else's baby?