A guy has been dating a woman for a couple of months now. He is struggling with something she does on a recreational basis. Is it really that big of a deal?

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Other People's Problems April 29, 2014

Mike & Kate-

I have been dating a woman for that couple of months. We are both in our mid 30s and really seem to click. After a few botched relationships, I really think she might be someone I could get serious about. We met skiing this past winter. We both love to do the same stuff like mountain bike, ski, play frisbee golf in the park. She works in finance and is very good at her job. She takes it very serious. The one hang up I have is that she smokes pot. She doesn't drink a ton, her way of partying is to smoke weed. I have never been a fan of smoking pot. I would rather drink a beer. I feel like a hypocrite that this bothers me. It's illegal yes, but it's not like she is getting out of control and causing trouble. She never smokes and drives. She doesn't need it. It's just one of those things where if we are hanging out and I grab a beer out of the fridge, she'll go outside and smoke a joint. She doesn't annoy me when she is high. I really can't even tell the difference. I've talked to her about it, just trying to find out why she smokes. She feels about drinking the way I feel about pot. It's just her preference in recreation. She said with Colorado and Washington making it legal, it's only a matter of time before all states make it legal. So why does it bother me so much? Am I that straight-laced that I can't get over the fact that it's currently illegal? She really is an amazing woman. Do I just need to get over this one thing? Do you have any other listeners who date pot smokers even though it's illegal? If Colorado and Washington say it's okay, then it can't be that bad right? Idaho law just hasn't caught up.

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