How Can He Trust Her Again?-Other People’s Problems

A woman cheated on her husband. They are working on their marriage but he is doing something that she feels is going too far in rebuilding their trust.

Mike & Kate-
I cheated on my husband. It happened 6 months ago. It went on for about 2 months and then I got caught. My husband and I are both in our 30s, we have a two year old child and have been married for 7 years. We are trying to rebuild our marriage. I take full responsibility. I can give you a list of reasons of why I did this but none of them matter. There is no excuse for cheating. My husband and I are being counseled by our pastor. We are no where close to where we need to be but both has made a commitment to work through this, for better or worse.
I'm looking for advice on how far you go to rebuild that trust. I know I shattered it with my actions. Does that mean I have to turn over everything to my husband? He wants access to all my email accounts, even my work one. He wants to check my cellphone every night when I get home from work. I have to call him when I get to work. I haven't gone out with a girlfriend in 6 months in fear that would send him over the edge. Over Memorial Day weekend, I noticed that he had installed surveillance cameras in our cabin in McCall. That is where I had the affair. I told him I thought that was a bit extreme and he said that he needs access to all parts of my life in order to regain the trust. We can't sell the cabin because it's in the family so he claims this will help him get comfortable there.
Do you think he is going too far? I am worried if I object too much he with think I'm hiding something. I am not. How do I show him that I am 100% committed to him without while at the same time maintaining some privacy?
Thank you.

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