It's important I reach out to you regarding a very disturbing story that is trending about a man who promised to murder his girlfriend and son.

I am an advocate for standing up against domestic violence and child abuse. The stories I've been told and witnessed never leave you. These are nightmare scenarios and it's never too early to discuss the subject because this could be your neighbor.

This story about this Pocatello man should shake everyone. This guy had been beating his girlfriend for a while and promised if she told that her entire bloodline would be killed. He went on about knowing people in jail that would do it for him. He also beat her in front of her son promising it would be the last time he saw her alive. Luckily, the woman slipped a note to someone that she was in danger.

The police showed up to her home and even at that moment, the man said it wasn't their business. He went on to tell her not to speak with officers. Thankfully, she spoke to and both the woman including son is safe. I'm not going into names and locations with specific details because I'm not an investigating reporter. This story is scary and it's important you're aware that this happens. However, I will put the link below so you can read the rest. I am sharing this because it could be happening in your office, neighborhood, or family member.

I watched my mom and her abusive boyfriend fight over a revolver in the kitchen one night. That guy would freak out, put his finger in his mouth, bite like crazy, and then start beating the crap out of my mother. She stayed in that relationship for a while until he threatened me once.

People love to say, "why didn't she just leave before." These abusive relationships don't happen overnight. A lot of domestic violence stories happen over a period of time. It starts out small and then continues to increase and then mental abuse is also a major contributor to staying in these relationships.

This pandemic is only making matters worse. Talk to your friends. If you notice someone out of the normal or unusual bruises be nosy. Ask questions. Make sure they know that you are a safe place for them. Abusers have a way of making you believe over time that it's your fault and that nobody wants you. The mental game is scary. Please discuss and teach your kids about abuse. Explain to them at a younger age what healthy relationships are and what to do if you ever find yourself in a bad situation.

If you see something, say something. I've talked to numerous officers that want you to be wrong. They would rather show up to a false alarm. It's the stories that don't get reported that scare them.

Please call 911 if you see something. If this is about your situation just remember that it's not your fault. You deserve to be happy and try to remember that. When was the last time you were happy? Leave. Get Help. Start your new life now. Your life matters and why wait. You can goto to one of the Treasure Valley Shelters like The Women's and Children's Alliance right now to escape.