Other People’s Problems

Today Mike & Kate try and help one of their 12 listeners who thinks her friend's 14 year old daughter has an eating disorder. Read the entire email and let us know what you think. Email mikeandkate@mix106radio.com, call 376-5106 or post on Facebook at Mix106 RadioMike and Kate-I have been staying with my friend for the last three weeks. My house sold so fast and I don’t close on my new place until the 20^th of December. I have been sharing a bathroom with their 14 year old daughter while I stay at their home. They also have a 10 year old son. My friend and I have been friends for over 15 years. We have been through a lot together. I couldn’t  She is my best friend. I have always thought she and her husband are amazing parents. The problem is I think they are in denial about a huge problem with their daughter.  Like I said, we share a bathroom. I found some seriously strong diet pills under the counter. They were tucked way in the back.  I didn’t say anything right away. Then I started to notice that after dinner she always goes to the bathroom.  A few times I have heard her puking. I asked if she was okay and she always said the food didn’t sit right with her. Now that I found these pills, I am starting to wonder if she has an eating disorder. She is skinny buy aren’t most 14 year old? She never eats breakfast in the morning and says she will get something at school. I wonder if she eats at all during the day? My friend always makes her kids eat dinner but now that I am paying attention, this little girl goes to the bathroom immediately after eating and for the last week I have stood outside the door and can hear her throwing up. I don’t know how to bring this up to my friend. I mentioned the pills and she said, oh, that’s just a punch a fiber to keep her from bloating. It’s nothing. But I know for a fact those are not fiber pills. They have Efedra in them. I don’t want to but into anyone else’s business but I also know how serious eating disorders are. How do I handle this situation? What if my friend kicks me out? What if she ends our friendship? What if she doesn’t do anything to help her daughter? Should I try and talk to the daughter first and then tell her she needs to tell her mom or I will? What do I do? I don’t have kids of my own and I know how parents react to someone telling them how to parent their child. Please help.