A mother will need to find daycare for her kids over the summer now that she has gone back to work. Her husband has come up with a plan but she isn't sure this is a good idea.

Other People's Problems- May 27th, 2014

Mike & Kate-
I have been married for 7 years to an amazing man. He has 2 children (ages 9 & 10) from a previous marriage. He and I have a 6 year old son and a 5 year old daughter. Last year when our daughter went to kindergarten, I went back to work. This will be the first summer where I am not home with the kids. In the last 6 months my husband was laid off and then rehired in a different position at less pay. Thank goodness we didn't have to pay daycare and the kids are in school. But that creates a problem for us this summer. The kids are out and we are at work. Daycare is completely out of our budget right now, but we both need to work. My husband's ex wife is going to have their two children every day. She is a stay at home mom with another child from her remarriage. She has now offered to watch my two children this summer. My husband thinks this is a great idea. Of course she will charge us, but it will be way less than daycare would be. The problem is this woman has been beyond awful to us for the last 7 years. Even longer if you consider the year we dated. She has gone out of her way to make our lives a living hell even. And it was purely out of spite and nothing more. She was remarried before he was. Anytime she could cause a roadblock and make things difficult she would. And now she wants to watch my children? I am sorry but I think she has an alterior motive. My husband says we have no other option. My family has offered to help with the kids but it would not be a set schedule. It would change week to week depending on who is available. They would be with either my mother, my sister or my sister-in-law. Even though it would be a little stressful because it would change each day. My husband says that is too much of a hassle. He also says it would be great to keep all the kids together this summer. I don't want this woman anywhere near my children. That is the real issue I am having. I don't want my kids bonding with her. I don't want her to think I "need" her. She will throw that in my face. I can guarantee it.  It was a miracle my husband and I got married. She tried everything to keep us apart. She still does things to keep my husband from his kids and she will say awful things about us to his kids. They are still leary of me based on the lies she told them. I am shocked my husband is okay letting any of our kids go with her this summer but I know the money situation is so stressful for him. I know he sees this as one less thing to worry about. I worry though that the aftermath is something we will be dealing with for years.
Do I just need to suck it up or is this something I should stand my ground on? What would other women do if they were in my shoes?

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