A grandmother is struggling with her relationship with her kids. So much to the point she is thinking of walking away. If she does, she'll run the risk of losing her grandchildren.

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Mike and Kate,
Im 49 years old and a grandma to 13 Grandkids. I became a grandmother at 38 to my oldest daughters who was just 18. I still had a 14 year old at home and a 20 yr old who was attempting to make a start out on his own. My oldest daughter had her baby with just me her sister and brother there. babys daddy couldn't/wouldn't come. I was there for her and made it as memorable as I could. I took pics, videos of her leaving the hospital and delivered flowers. 4 years later she had another boy which I was there, 2 yrs later another which I was there then 2 yrs later another and I was there and now she is due with her 5th baby due in November which I WONT be there. She moved out of state and has no contact with me. Over these years my youngest daughter got married and had 4 children. I was there for the births of these children. which the first 2 of these babies were born and passed due to being too early. I paid for the funeral because my daughter and her husband had no money. The Dr figured it out and the last 2 lived. Now my son who is in his 30's had his first child last month. Because it wasn't my daughter I didn't try to be there and see the birth but was there to meet my grandson hours after he was born. My son is not with his babys momma  but she has allowed to be grandma and grandpa and against my sons request  But my own children use their kids as pawns to get their way.
My O.P.P. is I am the only one who has been there for my kids their whole life without the help of their father and been there for their children(our grandkids)too. I provided the best home I could for a single mother with no child support. My kids did not want for anything.I bought new Mobile home which they were embarrassed of because it was a trailer,helped them with cars, made sure they had food, nice clothes and structure. I know I wasn't the perfect mom but I did my best. Now I have grandkids who some I get to be a part of their lives and others have been in and out of their lives because I didn't do what my kids told me to. If I didn't do what they wanted when they wanted then I got my grandkids taken away, example.... when I got married 3 year ago and went on my honeymoon my  oldest daughter wanted me  and my husband to end our honeymoon early to get back for my grandsons 1st birthday party which was not celebrated on his birthday but a week BEFORE. Now I don't know him because I didn't do what she said. My youngest daughter saw that she could threaten me with my grandkids  and now she takes them away often. I was there when her last baby was born  Dec because I stood up for myself when she was mean to me she took her away... I finally met her little  of 2012 and finally met her little girl 6 months ago. My youngest has  told me she regrets her decisions and has tried to be a part of my life and the others are still continuing to punish me.My question is when do I say enough and walk away. Its hard for me because I know that not only am I suffering but  my grandkids are also. Kids need their grandparents too and I was wondering if there is others out there with the same problem and how they dealt with it.

Signed,
A Grandmother in need

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