Mike and Nicole’s OPP: I’m Not Ready to Swing That Way
Dear Mike and Nicole,
My husband and I have been married for a little over 6 years and moved to Boise last year from Montana. We moved for my husbands job and I wasn't planning to work, but got bored and started looking. I found a great job and have made some friends rather quickly. There's one girl that I've gotten really close to over the past couple of months. My husband got along really well with hers right off the bat. We've gone out together on double dates and really enjoyed ourselves. It's hard to find couples that we both enjoy being around equally. That leads me to our most recent encounter.
They invited us to go to their friends house for a get together a few weeks ago. We had a nice time and got along with everyone there. I noticed that a few were very "handsy" but thought maybe it's just the culture out here. When I went back to work on Monday, one of my co-workers asked me how we liked the party. After a very awkward few minutes back and forth, she asked me if I knew that they were swingers! I had NO idea!
She told me that the gal is pretty open about it at work and was shocked that I didn't pick up on it. I truly had NO idea. My husband and I are just not into that kind of thing. I texted my husband right away and he said it wasn't that big of a deal. We talked about it when I got home and he actually said he wouldn't mind learning more about it?! I am at a complete loss. I don't know what to do. I'm so uncomfortable even thinking about it, my husband doesn't want to stop being friends with them, and even worse, he is considering something that I feel is soooo completely wrong.
What do I do? I don't even know what to think or where to start!