Dear Mike and Nicole,

My husband and I found out that we cannot have a baby because I cannot conceive. We are now looking for a surrogate to be an egg donor and carry our baby. He suggested his ex-wife and she said she would do it.

I really don't like the idea and it's extremely awkward to even talk about as an option. He says he would rather have someone he knows so well and trusts carry the baby and he knows that she is a very healthy person who takes care of herself.

I don't know if I could get past the idea of this baby being theirs biologically. It would be different if they had a child before we got married and I became his or her stepmom, but I can't shake the fact that she would be carrying my baby and forever have a part in my child's life story. He even joked about the fact that we could save money by just having them conceive the traditional way since they've already "been there and done that".

I'm really uneasy about the whole thing. But, my husband said this is the only way he will agree to the idea of a surrogate and I really want a baby.

Do you think this is a good idea? Am I wrong for even questioning the offer?

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